tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post4318060129255674095..comments2023-12-12T08:22:49.015-07:00Comments on navel gazing at its finest: ChagrinTheOneTrueSuehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04756132396031048647noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-83398193354974301152008-03-10T22:22:00.000-06:002008-03-10T22:22:00.000-06:00You know, I read this and it brought back a flood ...You know, I read this and it brought back a flood of memories for me. I know exactly where you are right now because I've been there. Hard just doesn't describe it! I had the same thing happen with one of my children. It was a horrible feeling. But, one thing that I don't regret is not hiding our problems completely from our children. We obviously didn't share all the details but they were aware of our situation. From this story and previous ones you've shared (the teenagers at the grocery store comes to mind) it is obvious that you are raising some amazing children. I know what you are going through right now is incredibly difficult, but I can tell you that things will get better and your family will be stronger when it's all said and done because you are going through this together. Honestly, I look back and I'm actually thankful we struggled with money and weren't able to give our kids everything they wanted when they wanted it. They had what they needed and learned to appreciate that and any extra things they've gotten so much more. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, thanks for sharing and sorry for the long comment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-29136635494915369692008-03-10T21:59:00.000-06:002008-03-10T21:59:00.000-06:00It's this (and stories like this) that help me und...It's this (and stories like this) that help me understand what is meant by the scriptural admonitions to become as a little child. They are so pure.<BR/><BR/>P.S. thanks for your comments on my blog. They are so sweet (sorry for the Pavlovian stimulus/response phenomenon I've set into effect for you, though. (hope they're good sniffles. Cathartic, at least?)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-76962744413034776022008-03-10T19:30:00.000-06:002008-03-10T19:30:00.000-06:00EEEEK! Crystal! You won't believe me, but I told...EEEEK! Crystal! <BR/><BR/>You won't believe me, but I told my husband this morning, "I'll bet it's Crystal." (But I couldn't remember the wild thing, it threw me off the trail.) Email me, woman! suelikestoblogandwastetime @ gmail . com <BR/><BR/>Or at least grant me access to your blog, tee heeTheOneTrueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04756132396031048647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-78912420443063114242008-03-10T19:11:00.000-06:002008-03-10T19:11:00.000-06:00Even with the awesome hints of your old nick name ...Even with the awesome hints of your old nick name and "going wild" (Taco Bell), you did not remember Mark and Crystal Martin!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-17425987919771932842008-03-10T12:58:00.000-06:002008-03-10T12:58:00.000-06:00Wow! What a sweet daughter you have. Hopefully y...Wow! What a sweet daughter you have. Hopefully your hugs and reassurances will make her feel better!<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you too!Beth Cotellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14536268080265726705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-58457109360031414762008-03-10T02:22:00.000-06:002008-03-10T02:22:00.000-06:00Sue, I'm catching up on all my favourite blogs...a...Sue, I'm catching up on all my favourite blogs...and I KNOW you don't want a pity party, but I am MAD at the world for you having to go through all of this. The house, the snow angels. I can only believe that you will be rewarded tenfold for your amazing dignity and grace handling this situation.<BR/><BR/>You are raising lovely, thoughful kids, and it is only natural that they will have picked up some of the stuff that's being going on. I'm sure you were able to reassure your daughter, however, and you might just want to get her a Happy Meal soon.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you my friend! I can't wait to watch your comeback.<BR/><BR/>HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-66199866319077023312008-03-09T23:02:00.000-06:002008-03-09T23:02:00.000-06:00That gets to me because I was that kid -- worried,...That gets to me because I was that kid -- worried, at too young of an age, if the heat or lights would get turned off. Again. <BR/><BR/>I don't think kids need to know about specifics, but they do need to know about the realities of money. <BR/><BR/>While we were engaged, my husband and I went to visit a man from my husband's home ward in California, and we happened to show up on their doorstep on a Monday evening. They were finishing Family Home Evening, so we waited on their front step before we rang the bell. Their window was open, though, so we did listen in. We heard this good couple tell their children, "We want you to know that we could absolutely afford to buy all those things you kids have been talking about. We just choose not to." <BR/><BR/>This brilliant message is employed every day in our home (except for the being able to afford it part): <B>we choose not to</B>. The kids don't need to know where we fall short financially, but they need to know that we choose to not buy certain things. At Costco: "Mom, can we get pizza at the food court?" "Nope, today's not our day for pizza." It works very well for us.~j.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02959570365515658547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-60592801196122169862008-03-09T22:58:00.000-06:002008-03-09T22:58:00.000-06:00Anonymous: I am seriously about to have an aneurys...Anonymous: I am seriously about to have an aneurysm trying to remember who used to call me that. REVEAL YOURSELF. <BR/><BR/>Or don't. And drive me slowly insane. ;>TheOneTrueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04756132396031048647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-42424038661857006382008-03-09T22:21:00.000-06:002008-03-09T22:21:00.000-06:00Just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog, humor, a...Just wanted to say that I LOVE your blog, humor, and honesty. So sorry about your current situation. A good friend once said "Poo comes in clumps" ... for what it's worth. HUGS!<BR/><BR/>JGary Churchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980752257125914038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-5193827555708340512008-03-09T22:20:00.000-06:002008-03-09T22:20:00.000-06:00Suzie-Fetchin-Q, can you guess who this is? If you...Suzie-Fetchin-Q, can you guess who this is? If you don't, that would be just "wild". I would say for you to call me and we could catch up, but seeing as how I read through all of your blogs last night and found out you don't talk on the phone, I guess that wont happen. Let me know if you can remember who this is!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-52926604411385639002008-03-09T21:12:00.000-06:002008-03-09T21:12:00.000-06:00My boy has offered up his piggy bank (all $14 of i...My boy has offered up his piggy bank (all $14 of it) to solve monetary concerns.Rynellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01026693487362512860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-55344783179746590842008-03-09T19:15:00.000-06:002008-03-09T19:15:00.000-06:00She is a sweetie! What a beautiful, beautiful lit...She is a sweetie! What a beautiful, beautiful little girl. Your right, our children teach us the best lessons, every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-63873789164376489482008-03-09T12:17:00.000-06:002008-03-09T12:17:00.000-06:00OMIGOSH! That totally made me cry! What a sweet ...OMIGOSH! That totally made me cry! What a sweet little girl you've raised. Bless her heart.<BR/><BR/>My husband has his entire extended family in PA, and because of the cost of airline tickets and our own VERY TIGHT BUDGET, we don't get to travel very often to see all his aunts/uncles/cousins/granparents. Emily was about 3, Jared was 1 and Connor was still just a wish and we were trying to coordinate getting back there again for a visit and were discussing how it just wasn't working out financially. I never gave two seconds thought to Emily coloring in the room with us until she ran out of the room, came back with her little piggy bank and said, "Here, I have tons of money. Now can we go?"<BR/><BR/>It's amazing how intuitive they are, even when we DON'T speak about certain things in front of them. They know... Don't beat yourself up about it. I think she SHOULD partly understand that there isn't always money for McD's. You're only human doing the best you can. You're a great mommy!Leahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13160551209809872319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-81609170549185765512008-03-09T10:21:00.000-06:002008-03-09T10:21:00.000-06:00How sweet!!Thanks for coming by my blog. Haven' se...How sweet!!<BR/>Thanks for coming by my blog. Haven' seen you in awhile! p.s. we live in Flagstaff AZ. Don't tell anyone! :-)Kristi Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749922455225303462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-82256670054841953752008-03-09T08:10:00.000-06:002008-03-09T08:10:00.000-06:00I agree with Azucar... as sad as that experience w...I agree with Azucar... as sad as that experience was, its also good for kids to realize that money doesn't grow on trees. It helps them to be more grounded teenagers and adults. Rather than thinking the world revolves around them and they should have ALL the latest greatest gagets, gizmos and toys... Don't be hard on yourself! Really. If you handle this whole situation carefully, you could be teaching your children some valuable life lessons! (there was a time in our past when money was non existent... we had our kids help us with the budgeting and planning of where finances went so that when we said NO to something, they understood why and that we weren't just being mean... it was a good FHE lesson) <BR/>anyway, isn't that what we are supposed to be doing as parents? Teaching our kids?? <BR/> I'm sure I will be burned at the stake for THAT opinion. Oh well.<BR/>You did good! You're wonder woman in my book!Elisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17255980370281345632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-27800972583458605592008-03-08T22:51:00.000-07:002008-03-08T22:51:00.000-07:00What a little sweetie!! They are there to teach u...What a little sweetie!! They are there to teach us all sorts of lessons. I often have been taught a lesson or two from my own!<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for coming by this evening. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers for our sweet baby - he's hanging on and doing well, for now - poor little thing. Have a good Sunday and I'll see you soon. KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-89010843302209304422008-03-08T22:15:00.000-07:002008-03-08T22:15:00.000-07:00I agree with Azucar--it's not that bad to be poor ...I agree with Azucar--it's not that bad to be poor and know it.<BR/><BR/>I used to think my parents were so poor that we couldn't even ask for a candy bar at the store. I wish I would have taught my kids that. It would save me a lot of checkout discussions . . .Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14892934158515052460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-38962499926945914882008-03-08T21:11:00.000-07:002008-03-08T21:11:00.000-07:00So, I interrupt my own head-banging to tell you th...So, I interrupt my own head-banging to tell you that it's probably not an accident that your daughter is loving and generous and sweet and empathic.<BR/><BR/>Just sayin'...Barb Matijevichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16469997012394334517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-24463831137758353762008-03-08T20:35:00.000-07:002008-03-08T20:35:00.000-07:00Ahhh what a sweetheart! That reminds me of someth...Ahhh what a sweetheart! That reminds me of something my daughter would do. They are oh so wise for being so young :-)onthegomomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00899118515327742159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-90108383518798318962008-03-08T19:11:00.000-07:002008-03-08T19:11:00.000-07:00sweet girl - don't you wish everyone had such a bi...sweet girl - don't you wish everyone had such a big heart!Kim Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14994994061317641228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-46579207762576479992008-03-08T18:42:00.000-07:002008-03-08T18:42:00.000-07:00My heart just broke a bit for you. What a darling ...My heart just broke a bit for you. What a darling girl.<BR/>I think every family - except for the five rich people in the world - go through tight, scary times. Hang in there.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-90565025775145784012008-03-08T17:23:00.000-07:002008-03-08T17:23:00.000-07:00What a sweet little girl you ahve there! My kids t...What a sweet little girl you ahve there! My kids teach me stuff every day! I though I was supossed to be the one to do that. Littld did we all know I really think it's the other way around.Kaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13677555887170714518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-22539452855776881992008-03-08T16:51:00.000-07:002008-03-08T16:51:00.000-07:00That is just so sweet. You're obviously doing a g...That is just so sweet. You're obviously doing a good job of raising a caring empathetic child.Jennifer (Jen on the Edge)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11334111687109555812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-25889216055952445862008-03-08T14:21:00.000-07:002008-03-08T14:21:00.000-07:00Sweet girl! We really do forget that they are list...Sweet girl! <BR/>We really do forget that they are listening and processing, don't we. I think you're doing a great job, Sue. Really.Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851220760568533019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18394742.post-4585654177264303262008-03-08T08:58:00.000-07:002008-03-08T08:58:00.000-07:00I used to think I shouldn't be in tumbling because...I used to think I shouldn't be in tumbling because it was $25 a month. I always felt like I was burdening my financially strapped parents with my activities. <BR/>I'm glad she is young & you had a good talk with her about it so she understands. I think it is realistic to have money issues, and kids should know that that happens in life, it's just a matter of reassuring them that you are going to be fine & that it isn't their fault. I think. (I would have liked a discussion like that. Mind you, I haven't had that talk with my own kids yet. oops)Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18368558553246780132noreply@blogger.com